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A kink checklist as honest as you dare to be.

293 carefully curated desires, hard limits, and quiet curiosities — top and bottom voices, side by side. Whispered through your browser. Shared only with the ones you choose.

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18+ only · No tracking · Yours alone

The Promise

Built for serious conversations.

Rebuilt from the bones in 2026. Real auth, encryption at rest, account-locked editing — no more "save this 64-character key on a Post-it next to the bed".

Built for honest conversations
Browse hundreds of activities, mark what you love, what you are curious about, and what is off the table.
Compare with partners
Share a private link, see where you align, where one of you wants to learn, and what is a hard limit.
Granular controls
Separate top and bottom answers, experience levels, and notes for every activity.
Privacy by default
Your list is private until you share it. Account-based editing — no public capability links to leak.

The Ritual

Three quiet steps.

Pour something dark. Take your time. Decide what to whisper, what to keep.

  1. 01

    Fill out your checklist

    Walk through 293 activities across 16 categories. Skip the ones that do not apply.

  2. 02

    Save to your account

    Create an account when you are done. Anonymous drafts are kept locally until you decide.

  3. 03

    Compare with someone

    Invite a partner by email or share a private link. Their answers stay private — you only see overlap.

Compare without oversharing.

Slip a private link to someone you trust. They answer their own list. You both see where you align, where one of you is curious, and where the line is drawn — without surrendering every answer to each other.

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  • Top and bottom answers tracked separately
  • Optional experience level and notes per activity
  • Themes, including nine pride flags
  • Drafts saved to your browser as you go
  • Delete every trace anytime from settings

The Fine Print

Questions, answered.

Is anything I enter public?
No. Every list is private to your account by default. Public profiles are off until you opt in, and sharing happens through tokenised links you control.
Do I have to sign up?
You can fill in a checklist anonymously — it lives in your browser. To save it permanently, share it, or compare with a partner, you'll need an account.
Can I delete my data?
Yes. From Settings → Account, you can delete every list, every share invitation, and your account itself. Deletions are immediate and cascade.
Is this safe for work / family devices?
No. The site contains explicit adult content. By using bdsmlist.me you confirm you are 18+ and accessing it on your own device.

Ready to begin?

No sign-up to start. Your answers stay in your browser until you decide to set them in stone.

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